Tutorials1927 - If you have a child would not be experiencing this problem. But if you have 2 children or even more, then this is something that can make your head dizzy, could even make you hysterical possible. Many parents often complain, I do not think he's abis could envy his brother or his sister how he could envy. "Kan I've been fair to them" said the elderly in general. You do not know what to do with this problem? Sibling rivalry inevitably bound to happen. It is a problem to show the identity of each child. Every human being even kids want him regarded as a figure of special individuals. Well, this is what happens to our children.
A brother praised because he was good at drawing eg, clever counting example. Well, the sister of course, also want to be praised, but not the same thing as possible. Maybe he will feel that, "ah .. I could not compete there because my brother is better" or "my brother is better". Then he will look for another field. If you do not respond to this, this is what would trigger it became increasingly fierce competition. Often parents say "aduh..hebatnya you". Well, when he says this in front of the sister or brother of the sister or brother may be offended, "he Koq praised, I koq not" .how to overcome this? Here's how:
1. Very simply, suppose you are dealing with children number 1 and you want to praise him. You could say something like, "Oh great .. ya, nice pictures to you, same yes as well as pictures sister". You praise your child's number one, but you also praised his brother. Or instead you are dealing with your child's number 2 and nearby there is child number 1. You say, "nah .. ya mama's boy great new same as his brother". Most are in doing the parents is a personal praise the child. Suppose a brother could finish a task well, most parents immediately praised "nah .. so great". Well, if your first child is silent, does not mean he did not have any feeling there. If this happens frequently under conscious he will feel that, "ah .. papa or mama same unfortunately only sister, as I do not". This could happen, so beware of that. If you praise your child, make sure if there are other children there praise the child indirectly. If there are no other children you may like to compliment you for the personnel on the child.
2. Another problem is the lack of personal time with each child. One day when completed a seminar, a father came up to me and said that he had problems to overcome rivalry between their children. She had two children and she says that she had to be fair to them all. In fact they always go out together as a family, but why this could still happen. Then I asked the father is. "Sir, did you ever invite one of the children alone to go out with his own father. Or maybe together father and mother ". "It never occurred during the 13 years I was married and my family. We always go together ". Well, here's the problem. "Loh .. koq can?" Said the father was surprised, maybe you could also say oh well .. not that a good thing? Out together as a family. Is not it establish a togetherness. Yes, it does establish a togetherness, but your child also need something else again. He wants to be regarded as special individuals. When you come out only with one child only, say, with child number one this time, then he will feel that he is special. He will feel that he is payed for the moment. The next time you come out with child number 2 alone and he will feel that he is also considered. Because as a child number two, things that often happens is that he will be obtaining feel as number 2, because that's the reality. He will never feel when be number 1. Well, until he's older brother was the definitely be number one and he becomes number 2, is not like that. Therefore you need to anticipate these feelings, in a way making it the number 1 at one particular time. Take him out, particular about him, make him feel that "yes .. now my number 1". Balance with an advice that her sister also important. Tell your child that the number 2 when you might suppose him eat at the restaurant, "hey .. if we traded food brother likes how? later you who love okay ". Here you make her feel important, but you also make it to have a sense of care on his own.
Well, it is the small things that you need to do to rivalries like this are not sticking become a hot issue in your family. Do this since they were little. Well if my child has been great now how? You still have time to do it now. Fix everything and you'll see their relationship will be much better and as a family will be very solid and very strong.
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