How to Establish Independent Character in Children

Tutorials1927 - The problems this time I want to discuss is the problem of a spoiled child and less independent. Parents often complain to me. Ouch my child is less self-contained, how do ya make him independent. I think he's too spoiled dech. My parents had grown up with a mediocre economy. Finally I so struggled alone to do everything. My child seems too good.

Usually when parents began to complain like that, I just turned around to ask them. "Sir, Ma'am .. in fact you already know the answer to do?", "Why do you mean how?" They asked in return, "was Mr. Mom already said that when you first in exaggerated mediocre and you have to do it all yourself. And your child are now too comfortable because all you have to provide. That is precisely the problem, you supply everything for your child without making him fight. You already know the problem but you still do ". They begin to realize the problem now. "But how else it pity? Instead he bother ". That is precisely the problem, we do not want to make a fuss of our children. Actually it does not make our children bother. Actually it is necessary to practice in live it so he could develop himself.

Children who are less independent and spoiled, are children who do not develop autonomy. You need to know that at one stage of child development, they have a stage where they want greater autonomy. It begins when they are 2 or 3 years. He wanted to do something at that time. But usually we parents sometimes overly protect children. When he wanted to climb the chair, we forbid him, "do it later fall". When he holds something we did not allowed for fear of rupture and so forth. Well, these children eventually become passive and just wait for what we give or what is given by caregivers. When this is the case for many years we have started to form a pattern within our children. To be passive and not independent. You try to give an exercise for children to work on their own.

If you have a child who has stepped on the 1st grade, you should not bring his bag when he got out of the car. You might argue, "oh .. I've got to go to work, when he was a long wait really." It should not be done. You can leave early if you know it will make you late and let him carry his own bag into the class. Do not just because we do not want to be bothered finally "here does not bring all already been entered in the class". That's the little things that make your child become less independent. If he was able to return the plates he used to eat into the sink, let him do it. "Well .. if so what is the point of my maid who pay". That's the problem you do not give your child the opportunity to develop themselves. All it needs to practice. You can not create an independent child without a process. Just like when we first was raised by the condition painstakingly by our parents. At that time our parents may not intentionally do that to us. They may even feel guilty because they can not serve us as possible. But that is precisely what turns good for us, for our development. We eventually became an independent. And then when we now have become a successful person we do not do that to a child, by reason of pity.

Dear readers, this is the problem we have to train our children to have an independent character. We must give them an opportunity as possible to develop themselves by doing many small things that is very, very useful for the development of his character. When a child returns her plate in place, lift the bag itself, restore his shoes by the time he had finished wearing, or doing small activities then the child will feel a positive self-esteem. He will feel that they are aligned with adults who do these things. This will create trust him soar. Therefore give this opportunity on your children. You will never be disappointed to see them grow and develop in a spirit of independence when they start stepping on the teen years.

So make sure you give your child a chance to do anything that he has been able to do. That is the key to helping a child to have an independent character, confident and able to do everything with full responsibility.

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